For the depressed, dating can often be a challenge. Even smiling can be too much of an effort. It’s called wearing “The mask of depression”. Here are some tips that can help interfacing with a potential emotional prospect a little easier. Medication. If you are depressed and on medication, take it religiously. Consistency is king. It will support you in dealing with friends and family, helping you to be a more upbeat, positive people. If you have a love prospect in hand, don’t tell him or her on the first date. Save that for when things are becoming more serious. Don’t feel compelled to do so before the time is right. When that happens you should begin by telling him or her that you have something about yourself that you need to talk about. Don’t just blurt out “I suffer from depression!” Preface it by saying something something like you struggle with with a fairly common issue but that you are taking care of yourself by seeking treatment.
Patience! Men often feel it’s their job to make women happy. It is typically their desire to help, but let him know you can’t always put on a happy face. On the other hand, some women expect men to take the initiative to plan dates or activities. This can be hard to do when you are depressed and you have little energy. Let her know you want to be with her, but it is just as much her responsibility to plan exciting activities. Low libido? Some antidepressants are well known to attenuate libido in both men and women. If you are among them, you should consider libido stimulating protocols.
Don’t repeat past dating mistakes. It is important to know your own weaknesses, your strengths and strengths and understand your dating pitfalls. If you find yourself repeating patterns that didn’t work the first time. (IE: like dating someone who makes you feel bad about yourself), leave the situation, and take some time off or find another companion.
Online dating. Many people scour the Internet for romantic partners. Many of them are good and many of them are not. Be careful. Though many of these sites are a good place to go to, consider mainstream dating sites as well.
Acceptance. You are not alone. I never met a person that didn’t have some kind of baggage. Don’t be too hard on yourself, all people have issues, past and present, (weight, acne, money, esteem, depression . . .) If the relationship is right for you, depression isn’t likely to be a deal breaker.