Sara Ramirez, actress in Grey’s Anatomy talks about her depression

LOS ANGELES, Calif.  On “Grey’s Anatomy,” Sara Ramirez’s character, Callie Torres, is going through a lot – she’s having Mark Sloan’s (Dr. McSteamy’s, Eric Dane) baby, and is working on rekindling her romance with Dr. Arizona Robbins (Jessica Capshaw), and now, the sexy actress is opening up about how her real life is nearly as dramatic.

In the March 2011 issue of Latina Magazine, the voluptuous brunette revealed she’s struggled with body issues. “There’s a whole list of things you could worry about. Are you skinny enough? Talented enough? In all kinds of ways, I used to be really, really hard on myself,” she told the mag.

Sara also revealed that she struggles with depression, telling the mag that at one, dark time, the actress had a difficult time getting out of bed and going to the set of her hit ABC show. “Somehow I managed to do it, but it wasn’t pretty,” she said of her one-time attitude on set.

The open and honest actress posed in her underwear for the mag, showing off her curvy shape. She said that she’s proud to be different in Hollywood. “I’ve never been very cookie cutter. If I choose something different from the status quo, it’s my responsibility and my choice to live my life that way,” she said.

Do’s and don’t s for people you know with with depression. 

Watching someone you care about go through depression can be devastating. Obviously, we don’t like to see the people we care about suffering from something we can’t help them with. Depression is particularly difficult because it can be hard to understand why they can’t just “snap out of it.” But depression is not just feeling sad or blue; depression is a severe mood disorder which may or may not affect the way that people function in their daily life. Here are some do’s and don’ts for dealing with a loved one’s depression.

DO try to understand that they will not just snap out of their depression. They may need additional help in the form of medication or psychotherapy.

DON’T try to fix their depression. Let them work with a professional who is specially trained to help them deal with their feelings.

DO be there to support, listen, distract or whatever they need you to do. Some people with depression like to talk about what they are feeling, others don’t. Be there in whatever capacity they need you to be.

DON’T neglect yourself either. Depression can be exhausting, not only for the person dealing with it, but their loved ones as well. If you find yourself becoming overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to speak with your doctor or therapist.

DO try to find a support group. Finding help is key to getting through it.

DON’T assume that they aren’t suicidal. Not everyone with depression is suicidal, but if you are concerned, don’t hesitate to bring it to someone’s attention. Warning signs include expressing suicidal ideations, severe depression that suddenly goes away without any intervention, self-inflicted injuries and giving away personal possessions.

Depression can be a challenge for everyone involved. But it’s important to know that there is a tremendous amount of support available. Speak with your doctor for more information.